Maturity
. . . is essential in
expressing loving,
joy-filled behavior
that gives
life.
Maturity is the goal for every healthy human being.
Our best shot to live in the fullness God intends, when all of us
understand the power of maturity.
This grants us the best possible outcomes in the
continuation of civilization.
We grow in maturity
when we share -
Joy & Curiosity
Joy is at the heart of
everything good in
life &our capacity for
joy increases all our lives!
Curiosity opens our hearts & minds, turns on our ‘relational circuits,’ & when they go on
we want to connect.
Appreciation - Connection
Having eyes glad to see us, when when people want to be with us, produces some of the best feelings in life.
Why are some feelings hard to deal with?
Because no one showed us what they are, or how to deal with them.
The basic ‘big six’ feelings we all have to learn to deal with..
SADNESS
FEARSHAME
ANGER
DISGUSTHOPELESSNESSLearning to ‘return to joy’ from each of these emotions activates maturing.
What is so important about our maturity?
No Maturity = No
Self-Regulation
We cannot control our behavior unless we have the maturity to
REGULATE our emotions.
moreover,
There are 5 stages of maturity that must be mastered
for you to be an emotionally healthy human being.
They are -
Stages of Maturity
Infant ——birth to 4
Child———4 to 13
Adult—13 to 1st child
Parent — thru raising children
Seniors — elder years
The kicker here is: you have to successfully grow through
each stage before you can fully gain the skills in the next stage.
It was a revelation when I learned I had missed most of my infant & child skill stages. I finally knew why my life was full of failure, pain, anger, & depression. But, I quickly learned how to heal, starting with doing life-tasks where I earned my missing infancy/child maturity skills.
Turns out gaining maturity skills is filled with satisfaction, joy, & empowerment.
The quality of my life grew beyond what I could have hoped for.
This set of books reveals the STAGES of maturity we all must earn AND How to get there:
Growing A More Human Community:
Volume 1: GROWING ME Becoming A Child;
Volume II: GROWING US Becoming an Adult;
Volume III: GROWING We the People,
lived & written by the remarkable Jim Wilder